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  • Slide 1 - PARENTS FOREVER Parents Forever Unit – Impact of Divorce on Adults EDUCATION FOR FAMILIES IN DIVORCE TRANSITION
  • Slide 2 - Basic principles in every divorce All divorces are different, yet they share common elements. We all have the right to the pursuit of happiness, no matter what others might say. Some individuals should not have married at all, should not have married each other, or should not have married when they did. When we discover this for ourselves and accept it, we can move on. Only the partners involved know the the whole story; other people’s judgments are invalid, because they cannot possibly know what has happened. We cannot expect to receive permission to divorce. Staying together for the the sake of the children does not work.
  • Slide 3 - Six stages of divorce Emotional Legal Economic Parental Social Psychological
  • Slide 4 - Various layers of divorce Source: Marcia Laswell, 1973, Love, Marriage, Family. Scott Foreman & Company. Pp 465-489 Developed by Paul Bohannan
  • Slide 5 - Main Points of Part I Children need the involvement of both parents in their lives Divorce affects children differently according to their stage of development During divorce, children experience a series of stages of grief and loss To make a difference in the long-term outcomes for children, it helps to develop positive ways of communicating, solving problems and reducing conflict
  • Slide 6 - Stages of grief and loss Adapted from: E. Kubler-Ross. 1969. On Death and Dying. New York: Macmillan and Dr. Judith Graham. Family Issues Divorce. University of Maine Cooperative Extension. 1993
  • Slide 7 - Psychological tasks for children experiencing divorce Understanding the divorce Strategic withdrawal Dealing with loss Dealing with anger Working out guilt Accepting the permanence of divorce Taking a chance on love
  • Slide 8 - How children are affected by divorce They feel abandoned. They feel powerless and helpless. They have a greater need for nurturing. They feel angry. They feel guilty; they feel the divorce is their fault. They think they have to “take care” of their parents. They worry that they will be “kicked out” They grieve. They experience conflicts of loyalty. They “act out” in some way.
  • Slide 9 - Ages and Stages
  • Slide 10 - How Children are affected by Divorce Infant to 2 years Too young to understand what is happening May sense parents’ stress and feel changes in daily routine Task: develop trust and to bond
  • Slide 11 - How Children are affected by Divorce Preschooler - ages 2 to 5 Lack mental ability to understand what is happening Will be confused, angry, sad, and fearful May believe they are at fault Fantasy play will reveal fears and desires of family reunited May regress: bed wetting or thumb sucking
  • Slide 12 - How Children are affected by Divorce Ages 6 to 8 Reactions include anger, grief, and a deep yearning for the departed parent Anger will express itself through tantrums May feel responsible for taking care of parents Children identify with both parents - DO NOT criticize other parent in front of child!
  • Slide 13 - How Children are affected by Divorce Ages 9 to 12 Have ability to see two points of view Need to talk about their feelings and acknowledge anger May identify “good guy”/”bad guy”; focused on what’s “right and fair” Puberty makes it difficult to be separated from same-sex parent Likely to manipulate and play games with parents
  • Slide 14 - How Children are affected by Divorce Adolescence - ages 13 to 18 More developed socially and emotionally- peers are primary orientation Lack of consistency in discipline and control is unsettling - “growing up too fast” May act out anger and frustration through delinquency, substance abuse, sexual promiscuity Honest communication helps teens see both sides of issue - without involving them in inappropriate “adult issues”
  • Slide 15 - How Children are affected by Divorce Emerging Adulthood - 18 to 25 Accelerated independence - growing up faster Early departure from family to avoid conflict Involvement with alcohol, drugs or inappropriate sexual behavior to “escape” pain Loss of “Home”
  • Slide 16 - What affects a child’s adjustment to divorce? The level of conflict A stable environment Maintaining relationships Compassionate listening
  • Slide 17 - Changes Abrupt change focuses on a change that is not predictable. Continuous change builds on what you know.
  • Slide 18 - Things Divorced Parents Say to Confuse and Undermine a Child’s Love and Confidence I need you to listen to my feelings and be sympathetic Tell your mother/father to buy it for you This divorce is your mother’s/father’s fault You can always go live with your mother/father if you don’t like it here Don’t tell your mother/father about this
  • Slide 19 - Do you deny the existence of the other parent? Do you criticize the other parent? Do you place your children in the middle? Do you set the other parent up to fail? Are you alienating your children from the other parent?
  • Slide 21 - “I” messages vs. “YOU” messages “You are always planning something on my weekends with Kaci.” I feel angry when you plan activities during the time I’m supposed to spend with Kaci. I miss spending time with her. Would you please try to avoid scheduling things for her during my weekend?”
  • Slide 22 - Feelings of the Speaker: I feel ___________________________ Action of the Listener: When you _______________________ Consequences of the behavior: because ________________________ Request for Change: Would you please _________________ ? “I” messages vs. “YOU” messages
  • Slide 23 - Using “I” Messages Vs. “You” Messages “I” delivers high powered messages in a productive way “I” expresses my feelings as my own and relate those feelings to another’s behavior… NOT the person “You” messages = put downs or solutions “I” messages = honesty and builds trust
  • Slide 24 - ACTIVE LISTENING STOP TALKING Concentrate Relax Make eye contact STOP TALKING
  • Slide 25 - Main Points of Part 2 Children need the involvement of both parents in their lives Divorce creates an opportunity for parents to develop new parenting skills that will improve their relationship with their children Discipline is very important during this time, and there are many tools for parents to work with
  • Slide 26 - Children’s Rights When Their Parents Divorce Meaningful relationships with both parents Remain separate from parents’ differences Love both parents Receive love and support from both parents Be physically and emotionally safe Express feelings regardless of parents’ viewpoint Be children, independent of the adult world of divorce
  • Slide 27 - Your Role as a Parent You are a parent – the greatest possible asset a child can have. You are here because you are a parent and the parenting responsibilities are FOREVER. Concentrate on what you can do rather than on what the other parent should do. Children with two supportive parents who are willing to address their children’s needs and resolve conflict in healthy ways are more likely to have a positive adjustment to the divorce.
  • Slide 28 - When discipline is needed Discipline A positive way to teach a child self-control and confidence Teaches a child what to do The focus is on how a child will behave in the future Children learn to control their own behavior Punishment One technique used in discipline Teaches a child what not to do The focus is on how a child behaved in the past Children learn that others control their behavior
  • Slide 29 - Parenting Styles Autocratic or authoritarian Parents have total control Parents are all-powerful Children cannot question parents’ authority Permissive There are no limits or rules for children Children have all the power Children have little respect for order or routine Respectful, positive or democratic There is a balance between individual freedom, the rights of others, and the responsibilities of everyone. Parents are leaders who encourage cooperation and learning Families have order and routine, and every person is important
  • Slide 30 - Parenting Styles Positive Parenting Discipline Nurture Respect Discipline-You are a teacher – you let your children know how you expect them to behave, set and enforce limits, and monitor their behavior Nurture- You provide love and reassurance to build a strong relationship with your child Respect – You model the respect you expect from your child, are fair and allow your child to express their thoughts and beliefs
  • Slide 31 - Different Parenting Styles Can Cause Conflict Between Parents Keep in mind: You can only control your own parenting style Ideally you will have similar rules and expectations, but this is not always possible Your child will do better if at least one parent uses a Positive Parenting style Your child needs you to: Love them unconditionally Set rules and have high expectations for their behavior Monitor their activities and friends Be a role model for how to deal with conflict, stress and communication in your relationship with the other parent
  • Slide 32 - Why children misbehave They are looking for attention They are imitating or modeling a parent’s behavior They are testing the parent They are standing up for themselves They are protecting themselves They feel bad about themselves They are hungry, tired, or sick
  • Slide 33 - Parallel-Parenting Business Principles Act reasonably Be flexible Make sensible, logical decisions Avoid conflict Control negative emotions Act in good faith Focus on children’s needs above your own Value both parents remaining involved in the children’s lives
  • Slide 34 - What should be in a Parenting Plan? Residential arrangements Parenting time schedule Medical care Communication with school Religion and cultural heritage Legal custody defined Vacations Participation in activities Plans for ongoing parent-child contact Child care arrangements Family connections How parents will communicate Transportation Financial responsibility How the agreement will be changed
  • Slide 35 - By focusing on your children, you are focusing on your family and your future You help your children most when you work cooperatively with the other parent to raise your children
  • Slide 36 - How new relationships affect children They have to give up the fantasy of getting their parents back together They may be threatened because they fear sharing the parent with another person A new relationship may undermine the security they are just beginning to redevelop after their parents’ separation Children may feel guilty about liking a parent’s new friend

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